Tina's Blog

Oh my - it has been awhile since I posted anything and for that I truly apologize.  Unfortunately life got pretty chaotic for awhile.  It took me some time to find my balance again but also to re-light my desires.  It started with an organizational change at work but then continued into the holiday season.  Then, on my way to an early morning appointment, I had an encounter with an earth angel that snapped me right out of it.  I will explain that more later... Sometimes we go through periods of depression that we cannot explain.  This is a fairly common issue for me unfortunately but I tend to snap out of it fairly easily.  This year, it has been a tad harder because of a torn rotator cuff and subsequent surgery.  As I am healing from the surgery and going through PT three times a week, I have finally started to climb out of the depression that has held me under for months.  I am finally seeing things in a more relaxed and calmer ligh...

Throughout our lives we search for the right tools and ideas to help make our lives meaningful, authentic and rich. It is like a treasure hunt along our journey in life.   We have these “aha” moments, and there is this wonderful recognition and we realize that this new idea or tool is exactly what is needed to help you along in your life journey. The Mental Room This room houses your thoughts, beliefs, assumptions, and thinking patterns.   Paying attention to this room is important so you are not stuck in old thinking patterns but are open to learning and growing.    Deepak Chopra has said that more than  80% of our thinking is the same as yesterday.   The power of thought is one of the most creative forces in the universe. Some would say –  the  most powerful.   We do not usually give a second thought to thinking, but our thoughts are constantly creating our experiences.   The language we use – to thin...

Outside my normal 9 to 5 job - I do other things that some people find unusual.  Not that long ago one of my dear friends finally realized just how spiritual I was.   I keep most personal things pretty close to my chest but I do open up to others.  Over the past 10 years or so I have become more passionate about my spirituality including the gifts that were bestowed upon me.   I don't always talk about them but my gifts are a huge part of who I am.   A few years ago I came upon a young woman who needed guidance and I was given a message to give her which turned into a coaching relationship that I have treasured.  She is doing so much better now and we continue to stay in contact.  The next person that I encountered who I just knew needed help and guidance has been more of a challenge - but addiction and grief will do that.   We continue to work on things but holidays, anniversary dates, birthdays - they all bring up many memor...

May has been a blur for myself and many others.  For those of us with children (even adult children), the month of May can mean school is ending for the year or even for good.  Emotionally this can be exhausting and during times of emotional exhaustion it is best to take time for yourself to find balance again.  For my youngest the month came to a close with graduation from college and the start of a new career.  She has grown so much over the past four years and has had adventures that I am grateful for.  Now her life will get busy with adulting and making a life in the eastern part of the US.  She has already found balance with living life and I hope she continues to sustain it as she starts her management career - otherwise she will burn out fast.  For me this is another step to having that empty nest (although it has been empty for four years).  I also made a huge decision to push myself with officially starting my own healing business (Reiki,...

Finding your balance can mean multiple things but to me it is living with peace and balance everyday.   Although balance can mean different things to different people, it has a pretty basic meaning to me.   I find time for family and friends while also finding time for myself.  I find time to meditate, to reflect on things, to exercise, to sleep, I eat healthy, I take care of myself, and when a friend or family member needs me I take care of them as well.  I also ensure that clients and I meet to go through things regularly and that my spiritual well-being is taken care of.  When my kids were young I found it difficult to find time for myself and didn't have the balance I needed most of the time.   As a single parent I ensured their well-being was the most important thing and often would ignore my own self-care because there were simply not enough hours in the day.  As the girls grew older I found more time for myself and now that they...

Self-love is a journey that only you can take.  So here is  the thing – to love yourself is the greatest gift you can give yourself.  Seems pretty simple right?  Truth is it is not.   Self-love is often difficult to find when you doubt yourself or you’ve had bad experiences in the past that have left you with low self-esteem.  If you think about it we all have these little triggers – a bad relationship, abuse (any kind), too fat, too skinny, not smart enough, too smart, etc.  We all have something that triggers us to not love ourselves even if it is only temporary.  The key is to overcome and let go of the past and move forward.  To not allow things from your past to haunt you.  To forgive others who hurt you in any manner.  To love yourself more than anything else.  All of these things are quite personal but especially forgiveness.  Forgiveness is often misunderstood.  Forgiving someone who hurt you can feel ...

Education is awesome!   Yes, I said it and quite honestly I mean it more than most people will ever fully understand.  I believe in understanding my own mind so that I can understand other people better - what they think, how they think, why they think.  It sounds a little crazy but I really do enjoy trying to understand why people do things or act a certain way.  I decided to undertake 2019 as an educational journey of enlightenment for myself.  I started some really hard courses and then disaster struck at my home and I was forced to live in a hotel for a few months.  I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason so I decided to refocus on the courses I had signed up for and see where it took me.  Not only did it open and expand my mind but it also awakened a part of my heart that I had forgotten about since I was a child.  I love to learn new things and I love to understand why things are the way they are.  I had forgotten...

Meditation and Prayer Meditation and prayer are often confused as being the same thing and although you can meditate through prayer, there are differences between the two.  Meditation is often described as a way to engage in a mental exercise for the purpose of reaching a heightened level of spiritual awareness.  Prayer is often described as a request for help or expression of thanks addressed to God or an object of worship.  Both prayer and meditation should be done with the correct intention and when they are they can produce the same benefit.  The psychological effect, provided the intention is pure, is the same in that you are free of the suffering and angst that you have felt and more focused on inner peace.    Prayer accomplishes many things.  It develops our character to its highest state.  It builds a mind that is always open to Spirit.  Through prayer, we attain an interpenetrating consciousness with God's perfect life...

Emotional pain and how to heal with meditation Everyone goes through emotional pain at some point in their lives.  Emotional pain can actually be the worst pain to deal with - even worse than a broken bone.  The human mind triggers emotional reactions when something occurs that is not how we believe they should be.  We torment ourselves about choices we've made, words we've spoken and the path not taken.  Sometimes we dwell on the what-ifs of the past or future.  What if I had done it this way?  Would my present be different now?  What if I do this now?  Can my future be brighter?   We have created a prison of suffering and can find ourselves lost in the madness.  Let's be honest, we have a lifetime of conditioned beliefs and expectations that we filter our perceptions through.  We believe that the things that are external are why our lives are the way they are and why we are angry, depressed, anxious, or afraid.  But ...

Daily self care and why it is so very important Daily self care is very important to ensure your balance.  Everyone has heard that recently but the real question is - what is self care?  To be honest it is pretty much anything that you do to be good to yourself.  In today's world we are always rushing around to appointments or meetings or to get to work or to get home - it is all about rush, rush, rush.   I admit it, I did it too.  Then my kids became self-sufficient as older teenagers and then as adults and I found myself alone at home.  When my kids were little I ran around to events, practices, dance recitals, soccer games, and the list goes on.  I never thought about myself but only my kids since they were my sole focus in life.   I wasn't the happiest internally but I was happy with being able to provide them with what they needed.  As the girls grew older I started to realize that I needed self care more than ever before be...